LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX

Sex is pretty great. But what would your answer be if I asked you to name your absolute favorite part of sex? Depending on who you are and your personality type the answers would vary greatly. I was recently having a discussion with someone about porn who says he loves amateur clips because he can skip right to the cum shot, which is his favorite. He then added that the pay-off, so to speak, was his favorite moment of sex. Everything that comes before he simply saw as a lead up to that moment.

Personally in porn I love to watch a guy sucking dick. But not just sucking it… making love to it. Sure, part of that turn on has to do with knowing what generally comes next, but when you say the word ‘erotic’ to me, the image that almost always comes to mind is a guy carefully and masterfully exploring every single inch of his partner’s cock. Growing up, I always used to beat off to movie scenes where a guy was getting head (I’m talking regular movies, not pornographic movies). Even though you couldn’t see it (and in all actuality it was not even happening) his facial expressions told me everything I needed to know.

But that is my favorite part of porn. Thinking about my favorite part of being intimate with another man is much more difficult. So I’ve devised a poll to see what The Banana Blog readers say their favorite part of sex is. Below, I’ve crafted a scenario you may or may not have experienced firsthand. So go ahead and take the pole poll!

Ok- so let us set up a scenario here. You are out with some friends and it just so happens by luck one of the most handsome guys around has taken notice of you. After meeting and talking for a while, the conversation takes a turn away from the general fare (“I’m a personal trainer, what do you do for work?”). While the conversation has not exactly turned sexual yet, you’ve both signaled your interest in getting to know each other in a less clothed atmosphere. And that brings me to the first item.

1. INITIAL BEDROOM EYES

Oh “bedroom eyes.” What is it about this longing glance that captures my heart so? Oddly enough, it would be creepy if you looked at everyone this way, but when it’s a mutually interested party, the blood starts flowing where it is needed. Its at this moment where you cease to communicate verbally and say everything you need to with your own uniquely colored eyes. Whether or not the person of your visual assault fully understands all of the mental images you are flashing his way is moot. By reciprocating those bedroom eyes, you’ve agreed to take it one step further. And that is item number two.

2. THE FIRST KISS

This is such a make it or break it moment in the progression of the evening. When the sparks fly though, is there physical feeling that melts your cold heart like soft, warm, slightly moist lips? It might be cliché to compare it to sparks flying, but clichés are around for a reason. In this scenario, lets say you are in a loud bar, the DJ and conversations fighting for auditory supremacy. If the man you are kissing is one of those natural born incredible kissers, everything around you melts away: sound, temperature, even color. Your world is embraced by what is, in my humble opinion, one of the most intimate of sexual acts. As long as he isn’t trying to suffocate you with his tongue or gives you the good ol’ grandma peck, you are ready for the next step.

3. SERIOUS BODY CONTACT

Alright, so that first kiss went really, really good. So good, in fact, that you cannot stop kissing. You’ve gone full make-out mode. By this time, you are hopefully a) at his place, b) at your place, c) a hotel, or d) don’t give a fuck and are on the sidewalk. The making out has progressed into full fledged body contact. Your hands are exploring his body like you are touching silk for the first time. You want to know every centimeter of his skin. Here is the stage where you are discovering his muscle tone, searching for any abs, locating nipples, and unfortunately finding out if he is ticklish. When you can no longer stand all this body contact and just ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO, you do the following step.

4. REMOVAL OF CLOTHING

Out of all the steps to sex, this is where your internal dialogue runs somewhere along these lines: “OMG WE ARE ABOUT TO GET SOME!” Bedroom eyes also come into play here as you both stare at each other peel off the layers of fabric society deems necessary for public decency. Now you really get a good look at his body, take in the full view, and probably go from erect to rock-hard erect. If this step is done in just the right, unhurried way, it’s so sensual. Removing the clothes is an art- be careful not to trip in your jeans as I’ve done multiple times. In this scenario, you take off all your clothes but your underwear. Maybe its just my personal preference, but I love looking at a nice bulge in a sexy pair of underwear. If they are taken off too soon, it is like not wrapping birthday presents. Next, things get very serious.

5. RELEASING THE BEAST

Considering how sexually excited you both are at this point, each other’s cock is probably harder than steel. It’s pretty easy to see in those tight underwear (even boxers, which are essentially curtains for your man bits) and slowly, one partner works his way down the other’s body, maybe stopping at the nipple to give it a quick lick and choosing a couple other well placed spots along the abdomen to embrace with those soft lips. Now you are fully on your knees, face-to-face with his dick with only the thin layer of fabric separating you. You slowly reach around the elastic band and pull down. Since rock hard cocks don’t particularly follow the laws of gravity, it springs up in your face (or depending on the size, slaps you in the face) and those bedroom eyes have turned into some hungry eyes. We all know what happens next.

6. ORAL

I’m going to go ahead and say it. I love sucking cock. I also love getting sucked. Oral is really a win/win situation in the vast majority of cases. So here you are in this scenario, exploring those hard inches of cock with your tongue, enjoying the taste of (hopefully) clean delicate skin. If you are one of those who have banished your gag-reflex (or like me, born without one- hurray!), you take the head as far down your wet throat as you can, the only thing stopping you from doing further is your nose meeting his abdomen. You trade blow-jobs, you 69, you really get turned on more than you thought you could and then you are ready for the next step.

7. MOMENT OF INSERTION

Depending on your positional preference, this part varies greatly. Either way, the intense pleasure radiates through your entire body and relaxes your muscles in one gigantic exhale of euphoria. If you are a top in this scenario, the tight and warm ring that slowly engulfs the head of your cock makes you yearn for more. If you are the bottom in this scenario, that first ping of pain as your partner stretches out your ass gives way to that unique pleasure that is anal sex. As someone who is primarily a bottom and has a partner with a monster cock, I have come to absolutely love that dichotomy of intense pain giving way to what equates to a high. Ok, but now that we have that all over with, we can get down to the fucking.

8. PASSIONATE FUCKING

Considering all the passion you’ve experienced in this scenario, the actual fucking isn’t any different. If you are the top, you aren’t fucking a sex doll and if you are the bottom you aren’t getting fucked by a machine. You speed up your piston-like movement, you slow it down, you pull almost all the way out until just the head of your dick is keeping the two of you as one and then slam it back in. You reflect on your vast knowledge of the gay Kama Sutra and try several positions, you roll around (and hopefully not off) the bed/couch/whatever surface you are fucking on. You get close, you hold back, you get close again, and when you can no longer stand it you say in a sultry, possibly out of breath way, “I’m close.”

9. THE “PAYOFF”

Yes, the kissing felt amazing and of course, exploring each other’s bodies was great. Oral sex felt mind blowing and the anal sex was pretty swell too. But all of those moments are about the two of you as a unit. Blowing your load is purely selfish. This is your time, your moment. Whether you are a top or bottom, having an orgasm is like having a birthday- goddammit it’s all about you. In this scenario, there has been a lot of build up, so you probably shot ropes of cum that make Peter North look like a dribbler. But there you have it. It landed somewhere- in a condom, on his/your chest, on someone’s face, on someone’s tongue, or even sometimes like… lands everywhere.

10. THE AFTERWARDS

So, there you have it. You’ve done it all. You’ve explored each other’s bodies both inside and out. You now know this person in a way that most people will never. And now you get to enjoy the euphoric high of post cum. The two of you lay next to each other, thinking about how incredible that all was, sharing a few kisses and staring into each other’s eyes again looking through them and seeing where, if anywhere this might lead. And maybe, if there is still plenty of energy left, your flaccid cock stirs with a little anticipation for further action.

So, dear readers- what is your favorite part of sex? Vote below

This poll is closed! Poll activity:

Results:
1. Serious Body Contact – ( 778 votes )
2. Oral Sex – ( 676 votes )
3. Moment of Insertion – ( 604 votes )
4. Passionate Fucking – ( 601 votes )
5. First Look at His Penis – ( 549 votes )
6. The “Payoff”/Cumshot – ( 533 votes )
7. The Afterwards – ( 448 votes )
8. First Kiss – ( 356 votes )
9. Removal of Clothing – ( 268 votes )
10. Bedroom Eyes/First Look – ( 80 votes